I had the dubious pleasure this week of visiting a big department store two days in a row.
The first day, I parked in a space and noticed that the parking lot was full. As I got out of the car, I sighed because I knew what I would find inside. Stressed out people living in their “all about me” world.
As I walked around the store, I was amazed at how rude people were. By the time I was finished shopping, I was mentally and physically exhausted.
On the second day, I pulled into the parking lot and decided that I would test a theory of mine, so I mentally decided that today I was going to see helpful and nice people all around the store. I EXPECTED to have a positive experience!
That’s exactly what happened. I saw friendly people with smiles on their faces, sales people willing to help, and children smiling. Of course, I ran into the occasional grumpy person but all in all it was a MUCH better experience than the day before.
The moral? For the most part, in business and life, you will see exactly what you EXPECT to see. If you EXPECT to see stressed, angry and negative people that’s what you’re going to find. So when you shop this year, go out into the world expecting to find positivity and peace!
With that being said … let’s do a reality check here.
With the joys of the holidays comes the stress. Stress from family, shopping, holiday parties, and on and on it goes. There just isn't enough time in the day! It’s going to happen. You’re going to have an off moment or day. It’s ok to not be ok! Just don’t stay there too long.
So ... here are three tips that might help you not be as frantic this year ...
1. Don’t stress out about what you don’t have.
Be thankful for what you do have! One of the things that I do during the holidays is I make a gratitude list. A little list of things I am grateful for. It’s amazing how great it will make you feel. Focus on the positive parts of your life! Focus on what you do have!!
2. Remember to keep it simple!
Don’t overbook yourself. You don’t have to attend every party and buy presents for all your neighbors. However, if you're reading this and thinking "actually, yes I do" then try and keep it as simple as possible. It's the KISS method ... Keep It Simple Stupid ;-)
3. Have a good sense of humor!!!
Long lines at the mall, strange relatives you only see once a year … all things that might set off your stress button. Try and keep a good sense of humor about it all. Laugh about it!!! You know Aunt Martha is coming, you know how she’s going to behave … laugh!!! Then when you see her in person, give her a great big bear hug and a smile. At the very least her reaction will make you roar with laughter!!!
Have a happy, healthy and wonderful holiday everyone!!
Katharine is a two-time award-winning author, motivational speaker and the world’s leading concierge trainer and consultant. She is the founder of both Triangle International and the International Concierge and Lifestyle Management Association (ICLMA) as well as the author of several business and motivational books. You can visit her at her websites: www.triangleinternational.com and www.KatharineGiovanni.com